As of 9 years ago, my life changed forever. Not only was I living in a house with my wife, doing “adult” things such as paying a mortgage, taking out the garbage, preparing dinner, etc. but I was about to have my world turned upside down.

I’m of course, talking about the arrival of my first child. The day she arrived was a blur, and after being awake for over 40 hours straight, I didn’t even contemplate how it would change my single biggest hobby.

Fast forward, and two MORE children later… I’m quickly approaching 40 years old, with even less hair than I had, anti-anxiety medication coursing through my veins, and a few extra pounds around my waist.

Where am I going with this? Well, I just wanted to talk about how this has changed my day to day life, but also how it’s changed my outlook on the world of video games.

Yes, there is a LOT more important stuff out there than entertainment, don’t get me wrong, but video games have been such a huge part of my life and will continue to be, that I felt compelled to talk about the balance of fatherhood and gaming.

Before kids, a selling feature would be “50+ hours of gameplay!”. That turns me off almost completely now. This is kind of an obvious one though.

My ‘free time’ consists of approximately 2 hours a night, of which, I can spend with my wife, or watching a movie, netflix shows, or anything really. Do the math, and you’ll quickly see how this doesn’t equate to a quick turnaround of a game such as Red Dead Redemption 2 or Assassin’s Creed Odyssey.

Does that mean those games are off my radar completely? Not by any means.

Does it mean that I’ll be visiting a site like before I dive into something? You betcha.

Scheduling has become such a huge part of my routine that setting aside ‘gaming time’ is now a necessary task. Sure it takes some of the spontaneity out of things, but hey, it’s better than nothing.

This is a bit of a rambling post, I’m sure… but to all the new dads (and moms!) out there, who have a passion for video games and are scared that their favourite hobby will go to the wayside, do not fret. You just need to put the lives of your little humans above all else, and then when the time comes, you’ll be diving back into that backlog with ease.

– Dan J.